When we are young, we are innocent.
It is our inherent nature to love and expect to be loved in return. As souls we
come from love and we are wired for love. However, on this planet, plane and “school
of duality,” it is inevitable we will eventually experience hurt, betrayal,
disconnection and disillusionment. When these things happen, it is our natural
propensity to establish a protective shield, or start to build walls around our
hearts.
Heart walls are built an attempt
to prevent any future pain and hurt from happening. But these walls don’t keep
the pain out, they lock the hurt in.
These walls can cause a multitude
of problems, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. One significant
issue is they isolate us and make us feel lonely. They also prevent the flow of
giving and receiving love, which is our inherent nature and one of the most important
reasons we are here as spiritual beings having a human experience.
In order to feel safe, so we can
lower our defenses and become available for love, it is vital to dismantle these
walls. These walls can start to dissolve as we begin to cultivate kindness,
empathy and compassion for ourselves. It is important to learn how to authentically
and gently care for ourselves. And because we attract people who treat us like
we treat ourselves, this can naturally support us in becoming more discerning
about who we let close and how close.
If we want to heal and become whole,
we need to be able to bring love and compassion to the places inside that hurt.
As we acknowledge and heal our mental and emotional trauma, we become more
clear. This is how we become “spiritual adults,“ rather than unaware, hurting, unhealed
children (which is how most people are navigating in this world.)
If you are ready to be in an
authentic, caring and loving relationship, you need to be in an authentic,
caring and loving relationship with yourself. It is vital to take responsibility
for your own healing work. Also to acknowledge you are not a victim. No matter
what happened, it was an opportunity for you to grow on a soul level. If we don’t
forgive, we stay stuck in the lower level victim vibration, impede the energy
of grace, block off divine support and attract more situations where we feel powerless
and victimized.
To begin this transformational
process it can be helpful to consciously acknowledge though you have not always
been treated with love, you are worthy of love. Then think about what it would
mean to be more compassionate, affectionate and loving with yourself. It is also vital to forgive others (though not
necessarily allow them back in your life) and forgive yourself for not knowing
better or doing better. The truth is, we all are doing the very best we can given
our level of consciousness. When we
become aware of this, it can start soften our hearts and help the healing
process to naturally begin.
Some additional helpful practices to
dismantle heart walls include:
1 1. Consider what would nurture
you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and do these things for
yourself.
2 2. Say the things to your reflection
in the mirror that you long to hear.
3 3. Spend time in your inner
world, and become familiar with your inner landscape. This can positively influence
and affect your outer life.
4 4. Make time to quite your
mind, relax into silence and then make yourself available to hear the wisdom of
the still small voice within.
5 5. Speak your truth, don’t
play games with yourself or others.
6 6. Say yes when you mean yes
and no when you mean no. This can help establish healthy boundaries and help
you become more clear about what is expected and shift how you will be treated.
7 7. Listen to healing and empowering
guided meditations. This will help your subconscious mind and conscious mind
partner together, and help create positive changes in your life.
And while participating in these
practices may mean some people will move away from you, they are not the “right
people” for you. This will also create the space and vibration for those who are a
more compatible and a “natural fit” to come forward in your life.
Well-being, love and happiness are
inner qualities. Set the intention to tap into this inner state, and watch how
your life shifts, uplevels and transforms. As you relax into the space of love
within, and become more comfortable and empowered in your life, it will shift
your posture from victim and fear-based, to empowered and love-based. And what you attract from this vibration will
always be better, healthier and more fulfilling.
Living life with an open heart, and
in our truth, is how we align with our soul and Source. This is our ultimate
strength. This is how we invite grace and flow into our lives, how we attract others of
like mind and heart, and begin to experience a “heaven on earth
reality.”
If you would like help dissolving
the walls around your heart, I have many guided meditations on my website
designed to support you. You can also be in touch with me at tammibphd@gmail.com with any questions,
prayer requests, thoughts, revelations or anything else you would like to
share.
Sending you blessings of healing,
wholeness, grace, ease, peace and open-hearted, flowing, eternal love,
Tammi
