Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Courage, Confidence & Great Love

In order for life to show up in a supportive, kind and loving way, we must come into a supportive, kind and loving relationship with ourselves.  And since most of us have experienced a fair amount of drama, trauma and disillusionment in our lives, this can take some conscious intention and a bit of inner work. 

The process of relinquishing fear, awakening and stepping into our authentic power rarely happens all at once or quickly. Nor should it. Waking up to the love we are, and the work of enlightenment, is best approached as a marathon rather than a sprint. Slow and steady wins the race!  

For me healing and relaxing into love has been about learning to trust myself and having faith in the process of life. 

It can be helpful while in the throes of fear to ask yourself “What is it I am really afraid of?” Then compassionately listen to whatever comes up. Usually it is a younger part of ourselves that has experienced some trauma and has some unprocessed pain. Imagine soothing your younger self with presence, patience and empathy.  Consider allowing this young one to express their feelings by writing down what comes up in a notebook or journal, and then responding as your adult-self in a kind and gentle way. 

Another helpful practice can be to invite your Higher Power, as you know it, to be part of the conversation. Talk. Ask questions. Then receive. By sharing your feelings and then patiently listening with your open heart or "inner ears" you can gain access to personal aha's, insights and tap into your wise inner knowing. This is a powerful practice that can help you unravel fear, cultivate courage and begin to heal from the inside out. 

I have found as I take care of my relationship with inner child and my relationship with God/Spirit/The Universe, my life works with much more peace, grace and joy.
This can start to clear the path for you to expand energetically and relax in to the being you were always destined to be. And as a wonderful bonus, joy, peace, creativity, celebration become your natural state of being. 

Being centered in your loving despite fear (an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real) can be like building a muscle. As we do this kind of inner work, we are often (and maybe always) met with grace and God winks, This can help us know that we are being supported by Something Greater. This is how we deepen our roots in physical world reality and become stronger, more solid, and more evolved souls.  And once we become aligned and congruent in body, mind and spirit, we are more comfortable in our skin, more naturally confident and we become a more peaceful presence in the world.  

Consider this image and analogy: If the roots of a tree go deep, the natural side effect is for the branches to go high. The more deeply anchored you are in your self love, the more at home you feel within yourself, in the world and the more natural success, joy and wonderful relationships will be

When you are grounded, centered and aligned in your loving and beingness, the doingness and success happens as a natural side effect and consequence. Manifesting and naturally attracting what is yours by Divine Right occurs with a lot more grace, ease and synchronicity.

The truth is as you take responsibility to cultivate a peaceful, comfortable relationship with your inner reality, your outer reality will take care of itself. And once we relinquish fear, and relax in the place of love within, love is all around us. Love from others and life is simply a reflection of who we are, and a mirror of our divine nature. 

For more about this subject please listen to this episode of Journey to Center on Empower Radio.  http://www.empoweradio.com/home/shows/on-demand/journey-to-center/813214-Journeying-Center-and-the-Quality-Courage.html

And please be in touch with any thoughts, questions, ideas, stories or revelations of your own.

Sending you blessings on your journey of grace, ease, peace, comfort, healing, wholeness and great love,

Tammi Baliszewski, Ph.D.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Compassion as a Way of Being

We live on a planet of free will and choice, and while most of us would agree, we want people to be kind and loving, not everyone will make this choice. 

As long as we are given the choice to create from fear or love, there will be those who live more from a place of fear and disconnection.  I have been there myself, and you know what? It’s awful and it hurts! And hurt people hurt people. 

How others behave is their karma, how you chose to respond is yours. So when you witness “bad people doing bad things” what is your response? Do you jump on the band wagon and want to see this person lynched up, punished or maybe even destroyed? Or, can you take a step back? Can you try to understand where this person is within themselves and why they would make this kind of choice? 

It is easy to have compassion for victims. It is not as easy to have compassion for perpetrators. And it is the emotion of empathy and quality of compassion that separates mere mortals from ascended masters; those who perceive the world through the limited perspective of simply being human, from those who see our reality through a higher perspective of spiritual beings having a human experience. 

My spiritual teachers once told me “The only emotion left for the fully realized human being is infinite unbearable compassion.”  What I know for sure is that anyone who lives for very long as a human being on planet earth will not avoid pain.  In the movie “The Shack,” God says to one who is suffering “You want the promise of a pain free life…there isn’t one.” So the question becomes, how do you want to deal with the universal quality and experience of pain?

Years ago I got a call that a friend of mine was murdered, I got very cold, and started shaking. I realized I was going into shock. I started to run around this house, and considered things I could do to stop in the profound intensity of this pain. I thought to myself, I could have drink, or take a pill, but I realized there was nothing I could do to avoid the anguish I was feeling, so rather than running from it, I surrendered it - I fell to my knees, and I prayed.  I said to God repeatedly, "This makes no sense, this makes no sense, this makes no sense!!" What I got in return was "This will never make sense from your limited human perspective, you have to trust in Me, there is a higher order, someday you will understand." I realize if I want to live in peace, I MUST rest in this knowingness.

In Don Miguel’s Ruiz’ book “The Mastery of Love” He invited us to visualize living on a planet where everyone has a terrible skin disease. People are covered with wounds that are infected and everyone is in a great deal of pain, and this is considered normal.  Can you imagine how these people are going to treat each other?   Well, as humans we all have terrible infections and a disease, but rather than physical (which we could see) it is emotional (which we cannot see). This disease is fear and it can wreak havoc with our lives and ripple out and negatively affect others and the world.

The most important thing we can do is to admit we are hurting and start having compassion for ourselves. A second transformational healing practice is to allow and receive the compassion of Spirit and the angels to pour down over us and imbue us in body, mind and spirit. It is important look at our lives and be honest about the things that have broken our hearts and then hold ourselves in a place of gentleness, sweetness, acknowledgement and compassion.  It can be akin to seeing ourselves objectively, and speaking the words of kindness and empathy, then treating ourselves as we would a small child who we adore, or an innocent animal who we have immense love for. 

When I talked to Dr. Eben Alexander about his near death experience and his time with God, he spoke of the immense compassion God has for all of his children and that He is aware of how much it hurts to perceive being disconnected from God/Love for even a second or mere moment. Many people live their whole lives from the perception of disconnection. This breaks Gods heart and it can break ours. When we hurt, or observe hurting people who are making "bad choices", we can choose to build walls around ourselves, or we can allow it to break us open. 

We heal when we bring love and compassion to the places inside that hurt. And once we do this for ourselves, we can start bringing the healing quality of compassion to others and to the world.   

When we start living life and seeing others with this awareness, it can help us open our hearts rather than close them down. And rather than leap to a judgment and anger when someone flips you off in traffic, when you read something in the news of a terrible shooting or your experience a personal tragedy, your involuntary knee jerk response is not one reacting from unprocessed hurt and woundedness, but rather someone who is healing up and seeing this reality from a more spiritually mature and deeply compassionate  perspective.  This in turn is what will ripple out and positively affect others and the world. 

In a world that is primarily fear-based, are you part of the problem (living from fear, disconnection and judgment) or part of the solution (living from love, alignment and compassion)? 

Mahatma Gandhi shared some wonderful wisdom and an elegant invitation when he said:  “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” If you want to live in a more compassionate, peaceful world, cultivate the qualities of compassion and peace for and within yourself. The natural side effect is that you will effectively bring more of these qualities to our sweet, beautiful planet and her many hurting inhabitants. 

If you would like to open your heart and mind to greater compassion for yourself, so that you can more effectively share this vital and healing quality with the world, please email me at tammibphd.@gmail.com and request my "Cultivating Self Compassion" guided meditation. 

I invite you to be in touch and let me know how you are doing.

Sending you blessings of grace, ease, peace, sweetness, compassion, gratitude and great love, 

Tammi Baliszsewski, Ph.D.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Freedom and Independence!

I have to say, the Fourth of July is one of my very favorite holidays! Partly because it is the middle of summer (my favorite season), the relaxed BBQ’s with family and friends, and of course the beautiful sparkly colorful fireworks. These things all make my heart smile. Another reason I love it is because it represents the freedom and independence of our nation. 

As I looked a bit deeper at this, I realized part of this is because I have worked so hard to achieve my personal freedom and independence. 

As a young girl I was very insecure. This translated to an insecure young adult. I looked outside of myself for help, for validation, and for people to do the things I did not believe I could do.  In other words I had an inclination to make others more important than myself, and often, in essence, my higher power. 

You may have heard the phrase “false Idols will fall.”  It was not that I was consciously looking for idols, I just had very little belief in myself. And as things would unfold, every false idol did indeed fall. I was betrayed, abandoned, people got tired of the games, I got tired of the games. I was finally just left with me….this is when I started having some serious and authentic conversation with the Universe. 

As I turned inward and upward, as I started praying and meditating, I was prompted to go in a very different direction in my life. I found myself in school studying hypnotherapy, psychology and spiritual psychology. Life started making more sense. The journey was not easy, but I was met with grace. 

Today, I have no inclination to give my power away, nor do I believe I need anyone to do anything for me. The power of the Universe lies within me, as it does each and every one of us. 

What have come to understand, is that an Idol is anything that takes the place of God in our lives. God is our Source, God is our core, and if we want our lives to work, God needs to be the priority in our lives. 

If we do not cultivate this relationship we come from ego and a sense of separation, this is the root of dependence, competition, fear and insecurity; we are trapped in an unconscious prison of our own making.

My spiritual teachers would say, “All of our pain comes from our perceived disconnection from God.” As we open our heart to this aligned connection with our Creator, we feel more safe, supported, and loved. We become more independent and do not look to others to be our Gods. We can start to show up as spiritual adults in relationships and in our lives. 

This is true freedom and authentic independence. And just as America is said to be the land of the free because of the brave, we become free as we are brave enough to start to make our relationship with our Creator/ The Universe/God our primary intention.  It can indeed take courage and a leap of faith, and it may not always be easy but it will be met with grace.

You are adored and loved unconditionally by an infinitely powerful Creator, and this energy is imbued within you; it is your true essence. 

You are more powerful than you know, more exquisite than you can imagine, and more beautiful than you can fathom. If you could see yourself as God sees you, you would be astonished by your beauty. Once you accept, believe and receive this, you naturally start to experience a profound sense of freedom. You can begin to dance in partnership with the Divine, celebrating a Cosmic love affair, in your rightful place as a royal heir to the Universe. 

This is how we live a life of deep faith, synchronicity, and miracles, with grace, ease, and a peace beyond understanding.

Sending you blessings of courage, freedom, independence, and Immense love.

Tammi Baliszewski, Ph.D.